This week on Beauty is Rising, Kelli speaks with Heather Avis.
Heather is a wife who has been married for 17 years and a mom to three adoptive children — Mason, age 11, Truly, their daughter, is 8, and August, who is 5. All three were born in Southern California where the family currently lives.
She is an author, speaker, experienced special education teacher and a narrative shifter who runs a social media brand that focuses on creating a more inclusive world.
Their oldest and youngest children both have Down Syndrome and their daughter is of different ethnicity, being African-American from Guatemala.
Heather firmly believes that life is so much better when we aid in dealing with people who are different than us and spend our time and efforts in learning from others.
[05:47, Heather] After reading that email, God really shook me. There was like a spark in my heart. I would say I where I thought, Oh man, I wish I hadn’t read that because it’s changed me. And I think it’s going to change the trajectory of my life.
Heather relating part of their journey through having their first adoptive child
[10:34,Heather] We have a lot of parents, and people who will be like, “Oh, I could never do what you do.” And it’s like, “Oh, no, you could. And you would. You would do a great job.” You know, you just, you don’t know what you don’t know.
Heather on having the confidence to become parents to your children
[27:14, Heather] As moms, we know if we are empty for a very long time, we are a terrible mom and a terrible spouse and a terrible friend. So, in order to do in life well and be a good mom, be a good spouse, and be a good friend and worker, employee or business owner or whatever, we have to fill up our cup, like we have to have a full cup. So for me, it was just shifting from self-care to rest.
Heather on taking care of yourself while being a mom to your kids
[40:16, Heather] There’s the thing about living life, you can’t know about something until you’ve been through it. You have to learn it yourself. You’ve got to hold it with your hands open. So, know yourself.
[45:07, Heather] Be the parents. Be smart, loving, kind, helpful and wise. To ignore the fact that your child’s adopted or if they bring up like,”I miss my birth family or birth mom”, you need to be like,”What do you need? How can we help you know how loved and cherished you are in this moment?
Heather on the subject of having the option for your adopted child to have a relationship with the birth family
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